Thursday, August 21, 2014

Boomerang Love

July 10th, 2010 | 2 comments »

Kate Dalton and Jake Bailey are each other’s boomerang love – the person who comes back when you set them free. At least that’s what Kate always thought, until one phone call changes her world forever. Now Kate must reevaluate everything she thought she knew about love and life.

I’ve shared the above teaser for my manuscript, BACK TO YOU, with quite a few people at this point.  The number one thing people want to discuss after reading it is the whole “boomerang love” concept.  

Put simply, a boomerang love is the person who comes back to you when you set them free. Surely you remember that old Richard Bach quote, “If you love someone set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were.” Okay, so you probably have no idea that Richard Bach originated the quote, but I know you’ve heard the words. Perhaps comforted yourself with them when The-One-That-Got-Away didn’t return?

What about someone who comes back time and time again? I’m not talking about the guy you lay down like a doormat for and take back no matter his indiscretions. No, this is the guy who no matter what takes you apart – careers, relocations, tragedies, misplaced priorities - always finds his way back to you. We’ve all had someone like that, right? That’s the kind of boomerang love Kate Dalton and Jake Bailey have in BACK TO YOU.

To give credit where credit is due, I got the idea from the movie Little Black Book.  Two people who have broken up each keep a boomerang to remind them that no matter where they go in the world they could still be together one day.   

It’s a small part of the movie, but it resonated with me immediately.  Funny how a $5 DVD from Walmart can make an impact.  I did what we all do when curious and set out to Google “boomerang love.”  The first few websites used the term to describe abusive relationships – not exactly what I had in mind.  Then I found what I was looking for in a daily inspiration column by Dr. John H. Skiare.  He not only wrote that boomerang love is the healthiest kind of love – a love where both parties give and take equally – but he gave an excellent quote from a Luann Rice novel (Summer of Roses):

It wasn’t real love. I didn’t know that for a long time. Real love is a boomerang − it comes back to you. With Edward, love was a sinkhole.

At that point, I had two definitions of boomerang love that fit the relationship in my manuscript perfectly.  There was the idea in the movie that boomerang love is about setting someone free because you’re confident enough in your love to know they’ll come back to you.  Then there was Dr. Skiare’s definition about how it’s the purest kind of love because it’s about give and take.  Add in these Jimmy Buffet lyrics I found, and I knew I had stumbled upon something I had to use:

We both know we live in different orbits
Different islands different worlds
Though we really are the same
I’m just glad, glad we started talking
Finally realize no one is to blame

In one night, I retitled my book BACK TO ME, which fits my manuscript in so many ways, and rewrote several pieces of it to play on this boomerang love concept.  I trashed the query I had written to send to agents and came up with an entirely different (and hopefully better) one centered around this new idea.   

It was easy to write about boomerang love, because I’ve had one.  In fact, most women I’ve talked to say thay’ve had this kind of relationship.  In my case, there was never a doubt in my mind that we would end up together eventually.  We broke up each time our lives seemed to be going in different directions, but every single time we found our way back to one another.  That’s how I knew it was meant to be. 

I’m not going to say much more about my own life, because like most writers, I used pieces of it in my writing.  I want to hear from you though – have you had a boomerang love?  Did you find happily ever after together?  Are you still waiting, confident the timing will be right for you one day?

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2 Responses to “Boomerang Love”

  1. Linda Rettstatt

    Great blog, and a great concept. I’m in the middle of one of Tami Hoag’s romance novels called Taken By Storm that is exactly this concept. The one guy who is ‘the’ love of the heroine’s life just keeps coming back to her. She can’t escape him, no matter what her head tells her. I’ll be interested in reading more of your book and how you use that concept to tell your story.

    Linda

  2. Donald

    THERE IS A NEW SONG…
    BOOMERANG LOVE BY CALL ME WOODY
    http://www.reverbnation.com/eplay/artist_1273367
    http://www.reverbnation.com/callmewoody


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